It has come to my attention lately the impact of positive support among women.
Is the bond becoming stronger between our peers ?
I hope so, because while I have noticed the competitiveness among mothers and one upping on who has it harder, I am feeling more and more inclined to support my peers rather than compete. I also find it weird that hardship is something you want to be best at. You know what, we all have bad days no matter how good or bad our situation is we get days where we feel like we have been dragged through shit and back again and that is OK.
I have been fortunate enough to be on someones mind as they were worried about me. I have truly been OK but they saw I wasn't my "usual self" and asked me about it and also had a bunch of flowers (not necessary but lovely and as a new flower opens each day I am reminded how lucky I am to have such a caring friend).
A few articles have crossed my path recently highlighting our attitudes towards one another. One about forecasting harder times ahead when you merely pass a comment about a current mothering hardship, does Facebook help or hinder new mothers, and the "anti bitch revolution" over at Life Love and Hiccups . I am getting on that "anti bitch" bandwagon! Now I am not perfect and have definitely put on my judgy jumper and bitchy boots from time to time but maybe as I get older and wiser ( he-he that's funny), I see no use in it. This negative attitude is draining and gets you no where. I try to see things from a more positive perspective. If I say something can it have a positive outcome or will it leave that person feeling worse? So I want to be positive.
Keep an eye out for each other, listen to your friend if they need to get something off their chest. Allow and appreciate when someone is having a bad day, don't make it about you, but if you can, see eye to eye and relate.
Let's support our Mothers' in Arms, we all want the best for our kidlets and go about it in different ways and that is OK. We all have our strengths, some mums keep a great house, others can cook with kids in the kitchen without breaking a sweat, some are absolute superstars at the park and some can handle a temper tantrum like a boss, admire your friends strengths, learn from each other and balance out the equation.
How do you keep things positive among the women in your life?
What examples can we set for our children?
Who are your wonder woman role models?
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Here here hun. I'm no saint myself but I am aware and as soon as I say something that could hurt my conscience speaks up and I apologise immediately. I think listening to our heart helps and flipping the situation around to thinking how what we say will be received. Thanks for including my link hun xx
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading Sonia I appreciate you taking the time xx You are right we are not perfect what a boring world that would be! But making an effort to tune in is good for all
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